(creepy picture right? What if he just crawled outta there, Ring style?)
If you’re anything like me, you’ve delved into the online dating pool. There are hundreds of thousands of people, “looking for love,” “super down to earth,” who “love nerds,” but what’s the success rate?
I don’t know. This entry is kind of a rant.
Girls say some suspect things on their profiles: “I love and honest, nice guy.” “I like going out, but I’m also down to stay in and just cuddle and watch movies.” “I won’t respond if you send me just a ‘hey’ or ‘sup’ or whatever.” “I’m new to this!”
I’ve written a lot of messages. I’ve gotten my profile viewed a lot. Out of maybe 100 sincere messages, I’ll get 2 or 3 back.
Guys are stupid. We want certainty. We want a response. No response is a form of a response, but I guess it cuts a little deeper than “You’re not my type,” or “No thanks, not interested.” Upfront is better. Because guys are stupid, we’ll think things like, “Maybe she didn’t read it yet,” or “Maybe if I send a second message, she’ll like THAT one” (that actually happened to a married couple I know. She didn’t respond to him until his second message). So maybe that last example isn’t a good one of how dumb guys are.
This wasn’t meant to be an analysis of how guys/girls respond to messages and profiles. This is more to talk about the types of dating sites that are out there, and what they offer/don’t offer.
The stigma is gone, folks. The more we live our lives online, the more normal (or, “mormal”) it is to find a significant other on the internets.
Some sites are free. These sites are open to anyone and there are very few restrictions on what one can do. If you want to add albums-worth of pictures, or be in the “promoted” lists, then you’ll be paying a price. If you just want to browse, send messages back and forth, and hopefully form an emotional/aesthetic bond with another person…these sites are for you. They include (and I may be forgetting some, or just not know they exist): OkCupid.com pof.com evow.com ldslinkup.com
And then there’s the paid site. These sites are more “exclusive” in that if you’re paying for it, you’re probably gonna take it very seriously. Some profiles should be taken with a grain of salt. I remember meeting girls off of myspace (when that was still a thing) and sometimes the reaction was “Ohhh…you looked better on myspace.” This happened to so many people that there were T-shirts made saying something similar. Girls, if you’re photogenic…great. If you’re not…don’t change the angle until it’s absolutely perfect just to take a profile picture. Don’t wear tons of makeup, and don’t take pictures where you’re far away from the camera.
Okay, where was I? These paid dating sites can get kind of pricey. And you’re taking a risk. At least with Netflix and hulu you know exactly what you’re getting. These dating sites (that I can think of right now) are: match.com eharmony.com gk2gk.com christianmingle.com christiansingles.com ldsplanet.com
Do the sites that have a price-tag also carry a guarantee that you’ll find someone? No. Do they have a “higher quality” of people because they can/want to afford to pay the monthly/bi-annual cost of the site? No.
So what is the difference, really? Besides cost/non-cost?
Really…this is me asking, anyone who reads this, for an answer. What IS the best dating site? Is there a free option? Couldn’t they just use ads if it’s a paid site?
Oh yeah, and there’s this one called soulgeek.com where you can find like-minded geeks. This one is credit-based. Be careful what you do around the site. You might get charged for doing something you didn’t even know would cost you anything. Once I went into the “Chatroom” to see if there was anyone on, and to see what it was all about. I got charged 10 credits for that!! That’s 10 days-worth of logging on, just for the free credit. You can buy credits, but I’m sure they go super quick, with the way it’s set up to not tell you what you’ll be paying for (man that was wordy).
Anyway, in conclusion?? I like meeting people in person. Especially if you’re already at a show of a band you both like. Or you’re both at the same museum. Or you hit her with your car. So much in common already!